Definitely lust, not love.

    Romeo and Juliet is probably one of the most famous plays ever written, and it tells us about love at first sight. How Romeo and Juliet meet each other one night at a party and a few days later they are so captivated and in love with each other that they are ready to give up their own lives. But there is always one question that arises when we talk about their relationship, was it truly love or was it just lust? No one can define love because everyone has a different perspective on this subject. The definition of love to one person can be different from what someone else thinks. But Romeo and Juliet’s relationship was definitely just lust, it was never true love.
    

    Just before crashing the Capulet party, Romeo was talking to Benvolio about how he “loves” a girl that doesn’t love him back, and about how he is really sad over it. “Out of her favor, where I am in love.” “Yes, this is what love does. My sadness sits heavy in my chest.(Act 1, Scene 1)” He tells Benvolio about how he can’t even look at another girls because they remind him of her. “By giving liberty unto thine eyes. Examine other beauties.,”(Act 1, Scene 1) says Benvolio. “ 'Tis the way. To call hers, exquisite, in question more,”(Act 1, Scene 1) replies Romeo. Benvolio learns about the Capulet party, and convinces Romeo to attend because Rosaline will be there. But as soon as they enter the party and he sees Juliet, he forgets all about his former lover, and is intrigued by Juliet’s beauty and starts to question if his heart ever did love someone before this moment. “It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night Like a rich jewel in an Ethiope’s ear, Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear. So shows a snowy dove trooping with crows, As yonder lady o'er her fellows shows. The measure done, I’ll watch her place of stand, And, touching hers, make blessed my rude hand. Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! For I never saw true beauty till this night.”(Act 1, Scene 5) Just minutes before meeting Juliet, Romeo was so heartbroken over Rosaline. But the minute his eyes spotted Juliet he forgot all about his past lover and started to say that he thinks that he has never been in love before this moment. He hasn't even talked to her and doesn't even know her name, but he is already starting to talk about being in love. He is only attracted to her because of her beauty. He has learned nothing about her personality, for all he knows she could be rude and very arrogant. A person “in love” doesn't change their lover in one day. When you truly were in love with someone, it takes a long time to get over them and an even longer time to imagine yourself with someone else.
 
    For Juliet, it’s neither lust nor love that attracts her to Romeo. Romeo was just her escape plan from the life her family had planned for her. Without even a discussion, her father gives her hand to another man who is much older than her. Even though he tells Paris that he needs her permission, later on you can see that Lord Capulet had already made up his own mind and is enraged when Juliet refuses to marry Paris. Just before the party, her mother comes in to talk to her and tells her about the marriage proposal. She says she hasn’t even dreamt of being married, but if that is what her parents want, she would consider it. No child wants to get married at the age of 13, and even though she said yes, she couldn’t have been too happy inside. During the party, she meets Romeo who is obviously very good looking, very drawn to her, and most importantly he was not Paris.  Juliet could have an attractive man all to herself who fancied her a lot; she wouldn’t have to marry the man that her parents had chosen for her which meant that she could get out of the marriage proposal. So it was a win- win situation. Surely though as their relationship developed, it became lust. And even after she found out he was from the family of their enemies she decided to stay with him because she knew that would anger her parents. That could be her form of punishment for them for making her marry so young.

    At the end of this tragic play, we see that Romeo and Juliet both kill each other. Romeo feels the passion of lust just as strongly as one feels love. So when he sees Juliet “dead”, he is completely heartbroken and in that moment thinks that he can never get over her so he decides to end his own life. For Juliet, she ended her life for a different reason. She didn’t kill herself because she thought she would never be able to get over him, she killed herself because Romeo was her ticket to a happy marriage. With him gone, she would have no choice but to go back to her parents and marry Paris. So she picked the easy way out and took her own life. To some people, them committing suicide over each other is really romantic, but it depends with what you agree on. If you feel that they were really in love then it could be romantic. But if you feel like their relationship was purely lust, then no. Them committing suicide over each other was simply foolish and stupid. The idea of death is not romantic, even if it is someone that was truly in love who commits suicide. Taking your own life because you can’t be with the person you love is a very dumb thing to do, not everything is going to work out. Even if you think that you will never be able to love someone again, you have to just put up with it and move on. You have to force yourself to be happy because time stops for no one. All wounds are healed as time goes on.

    “Love isn't something that happens in 5 minutes. It’s when you are attracted to someone and then when you get to know them over a period of time, you start to become infatuated with their every small detail. You overlook their flaws simply because you can’t imagine your world without them.”-Sam. As mentioned previously, no one can really define love. Peoples opinion on this subject differs from one person to another. There are many different kinds of love, for example the type between you and your parents, between you and your siblings, between you and your pets, between you and your friends and etc.  The play displays different kinds of love too, like for example the love between Mercutio and Romeo. Romeo loves and cares for Mercutio in a completely different way than he does with Juliet. No one love is more valuable than the other, they are all important in their own way. 

    So its easy to see that their relationship wouldn't have lasted because it was never true love.

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Pressure

                                                             "Perfect"

Falling a thousand feet per second, you still take me by surprise.
I just know we can't be over, I can see it in your eyes.
Making every kind of silence, takes a lot to realize
Its worse to finish then to start all over and never let it lie.

And as long as I can feel you holding on. I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong.

I'm not perfect but I keep trying cause that's what I said I would do from the start.
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave. Was it something I said or just my personality?

Making every kind of silence, It takes a lot to realize
Its worse to finish then to start all over and never let it lie.

And as long as I can feel you holding on. I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong.

I know that I'm not perfect but I keep trying cause that's what I said I would do from the start.
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave. Was it something I said or just my personality?

When you're caught in a lie, and you've got nothing to hide,
When you've got nowhere to run, and you've got nothing inside.
It tears right through me, you thought that you knew me, you thought that you knew..

I'm not perfect but I keep trying cause that's what I said I would do from the start.
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave. Was it something I said or just my personality?
I'm not perfect but I keep trying cause that's what I said I would do from the start.
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave. Was it something I said or just my, just myself?
Just myself? Myself? Just myself?

I'm not perfect, but I keep trying.

Midterm

A) 22/25%- My attendance is pretty well, but I have missed a few classes due to being sick and doctor appointments. If I am late it is usually because I had to talk to a teacher or get something from my locker, which is on the other side of the school. During class, I am usually on task but there are days when I get distracted and decide to socialize. During the small tasks we have in class, I usually get them finished on time if I am not distracted by someone. If anyone asks for help, I do my best to help them with their problem. I always try my hardest to stay off my ipod if someone is talking, but there are days when I get too tempted and I decide to check my messages and etc. But I am going to make sure that I don’t do that anymore. I always try to have a positive attitude and open mind when coming to class.

B) 24/25%- I have all the assignments completed but some might have not been completed on time.

C) 20/25%- I try my hardest to finish each assignment to the best of my ability’s, but I am not the most amazing writer in our class so my writing piece may not be the best compared to some of the other people. I put in as much effort as I can, and I hope to improve more as the year progresses. One of the things I can do to improve is read other peoples blogs. For example, Sukhleen’s work is always very detailed and whenever I read it, I always learn from it.

D) 19/25%- The one thing I need to work on more is participating in class discussions. I sometimes answer a question or two, but I usually listen to what others have to say. Like I said before, I am always willing to help if anyone needs it, and I myself ask for help if I need it too. For example, when we were making our personal pages I was very confused but I got help from a classmate and learned how to do it. I don’t comment as much as I should, but I am going to change that. Whenever I do comment, I try to be helpful by commenting something that will make their assignment better. But I don’t always feel comfortable giving criticism. The comments that I have screenshotted are recent comments, because I couldn't find old comments that I really liked.

soliloquy (Act One, Scene 5)

One famous soliloquy in Romeo and Juliet would have to be when Romeo sees Juliet for the first time and says “O, she doth teach the torches to burn bright. It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night Like a rich jewel in an Ethiop’s ear; Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear! So shows a snowy dove trooping with crows, As yonder lady o’er her fellows shows. The measure done, I’ll watch her place of stand, And, touching hers, make blessed my rude hand. Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! For I never saw true beauty till this night.” Romeo is staring at Juliet and saying that she is so beautiful that she made the torches around the hall appear to grow dim. She is a dazzling jewel illuminating the dark night sky. She stood out from the other girls like a snowy dove in a field of crows. He can’t find the words to describe her. She couldn't be real: such beauty wasn't possible.

In this scene, Romeo sees her dancing from far away, and suddenly is captivated by her beauty. He can’t seem to get his eyes off of her, and all he wants to do is talk to her. This scene is important because he sees her for the first time, and from this point on their rocky love relationship begins. If Juliet wasn't dancing, or if Romeo had decided not to come to the party, the two of them would have never met, but fate brought them together. The speech Romeo says is just the starting of their relationship.

I like this speech because I find the comparisons and choice of words that Romeo used very cute. He said all the things that a girl would love to hear. It makes you believe that love at first sight can exist because the both of them go through so much for their relationship even though they have only met each other for a while. All the things he says are genuinely what he’s feeling because Juliet can’t hear him when he’s saying them.  He is just saying out loud whatever he’s truly feeling at that moment. 

Capulet's thoughts on love

Lord Capulet is Juliet's dad in the play called Romeo & Juliet written by Shakespeare. Capulet's thought about love are not as romantic as you would think, despite the fact that he is the father of Juliet. Capulet's friend Paris wanted to marry Juliet knowing that she was only 13 but wanted her just for the fact that she was beautiful and young. Capulet had thought that she was too young, but after being convinced that she would not be the only young bride and mother, his only worry was that Juliet would not fall in love with Paris as easy as Paris thought. He told him that he could marry his daughter only if he got her to like him.  Reading the play, that is the only time you would get an idea of what Capulet's thoughts are on love. I feel that his thoughts are not as caring and strong as they would be, but knowing that the play took place a long time ago, love wasn't a big aspect of ones thoughts. Everyone only cared about the fortune and society rank.

Act 2

A dysfunctional relationship in Romeo and Juliet will have to be the relationship between Lord and Lady Capulet. Both of them seem to be so distant from each other and have no idea what their partner is doing when they are not around. For example during the party hosted by the Capulet's, Lord Capulet was looking at young women dancing all around him, so he was checking them out. “A hall, a hall, give room and foot it girls.” I think that Lady Capulet does know this but she doesn't speak out about it because she doesn't want to create a fight. Back then, speaking bad about your husband was probably one of the worst things you could do. For a good and healthy relationship, both partners need to be loyal to each other and honest. But honesty is one thing they don’t have in this relationship. Lord Capulet does whatever he wants, and Lady Capulet just watches from the side lines and doesn't interfere.

A healthy relationship in this play will have to be between Juliet and the Nurse. The Nurse is practically like Juliet’s mother because Juliet’s own mother was never around to be there for her daughter. The Nurse has been there for her since the day she was born, and still continues to keep Juliet happy as she grows older. The Nurse remembers even the littlest details of her childhood, while Juliet’s own mother has no idea. “For then she could stand high-lone, nay, by the rood, She could have run and waddled all about. For even the day before, she broke her brow.” The Nurse talks about how she remembers Juliet running and walking because she cut her forehead just the day before. “Enough of this. I pray thee hold thy peace.” Lady Capulet basically tells the Nurse to shutup because she could care less. Juliet knows that she can go to the Nurse for advice, and knows that no matter what decision she makes, that the Nurse will always support her.

I think the most common relationship back in those times would have to be the relationship that the Nurse and Juliet have. Growing up in those times, the Nurse would always be the mother figure to the kids because their own mothers would never be around. The parents would be too busy partying and they never really cared for their kids.